My Story

My story begins in Panama City Beach, Florida, growing up as an “evangelical poster child” in the Christian-Youth-Retreat and Spring-Break-Debauchery Capital of the American Bible Belt. I stayed out of trouble, and I knew all the right answers in youth group. But I had a secret. I knew evangelical poster children weren’t supposed to be attracted to other guys, and I was determined that no one would ever find out. I believed that no one who ever fully knew me could ever truly love me.

Through my experience as a student and staff member with RUF, I came face-to-face with the depths of my sin (far worse than I ever could have imagined) and the even greater depths of Christ’s love (far great than I ever could have dreamed). I also learned that the gospel of Jesus frees us to take off our masks, be fully known, and find true love and intimacy within the Body of Christ.

Since first sharing my story publicly in 2013, I’ve spoken and written about my experience as a Christian who experiences same-sex attraction* and my desire to see the Church be a true family for all who are in Christ Jesus, regardless of marital or parental status.

I’m an MDiv graduate of Covenant Theological Seminary, and I’m a co-founder of Revoice, where I’ve been given the opportunity to help provide support and encouragement for other Christians who, like me, are gay/same-sex attracted and seeking to follow the historic Christian teaching about marriage and sexuality.

I live in the DeBaliviere Place neighborhood of St. Louis, and I’m a member of the family at Memorial Presbyterian Church (PCA). I enjoy hiking, sharing good food with friends, Broadway musicals, and spreadsheets. I’m also a proud Hufflepuff.

*You might wonder why I say that “I experience same-sex attraction” instead of saying “I’m gay.” To be honest, you’ll probably hear me say both at different times and different places because different words and labels mean different things—and carry different baggage, understandably, for different people. I try not to get caught up in debating language, which I ultimately believe is a question of wisdom and liberty, and instead try to focus on communicating my own experience and convictions with both clarity and charity, and trying to create space for others to do the same. For a great treatment of the different perspectives on language, I highly recommend this dialogue between my friends Greg Coles and Rachel Gilson, both of whom I respect immensely: